In honor of Valentine’s Day, I’m going to show you some super cute Valentine’s Day outfits of course. Pinks, reds, leopard print and faux fur. It’s the stuff all perfect Valentine’s Day outfits are made of. Except dresses. Somehow all of my outfits I picked out are pants….I guess I’m just a pants kind of gal.
But wait, there’s more!
Today’s post also brings you a story that will either be super relatable, or make you think less of me. If it’s the latter, can I use the excuse of being young and somewhat emotionally immature? This story is coming at you circa 2011.
Valentine’s Day, 2011.
So here we are. It’s Valentine’s Day. Craig and I exchanged gifts early this year (I can’t remember why) and I’m wearing the beautiful diamond Bulova watch he got me. Feeling super fancy. I’m attending classes at FSU during my freshman year and can’t wait to get back home.
I know Craig will be there waiting for me (he’s in town visiting – yes we had a long[ish] distance relationship for a good while) and we have plans to go out to dinner somewhere nice. Before heading home, I stop and pick up some chocolates and a small gift for Craig and wonder what kind of flowers or chocolates will be waiting for me when I get home.
Finally, I arrive back home after my 40 minute commute.
Craig: “Hey babe, Happy Valentine’s Day”
Me: “Happy Valentine’s Day! What have you been doing today?”
Craig: “Nothing really, just hanging around here.”
Me: “…Oh ok sounds fun….I got a little something for you”
Craig: “…I thought we already exchanged gifts?”
Me: “Yeah, but it’s Valentine’s Day so I wanted to get you something?…”
In case you haven’t picked up on it yet, there were no flowers, or chocolates, or anything else waiting on me when I got home.
This is when I learned that men are, in fact, NOT mind readers and do NOT know how to ‘pick up on clues’.
I actually got really upset about the whole thing and thinking back I feel kind of like a butthead about it, because Craig actually got me a really nice gift two weeks earlier (apparently the real lesson here is DON’T give me presents early).
I don’t know, I was young and hormonal or something. Let’s just say I’ve grown up quite a bit since then, thank goodness.
Anyways, we still went out to dinner, Craig brought me back home (still living with my parents at the time), we told each other goodnight, and Craig left.
An hour later, my phone rings.
“Hey, come outside.”
And there is Craig, unloading what seems to be ALL of the Valentine’s Day stuff that was left at Walmart on February 14th at 10:00 pm. 5 bouquets of flowers, several stuffed animals, and more chocolate than I could ever need. I was shocked, and of course, couldn’t wipe the big stupid grin off my face.
And here’s where all the ladies go “awwwwwww”.
Life Lessons About Love
Since then, I’ve learned a few things about love and relationships. So of course, I’m going to share my great wisdom with you all. Comment below with the most important ‘love lessons’ you’ve learned in your relationships! 🙂
1. Don’t try to make your partner someone they are not.
Craig never has been, and never will be, a “sweet” person. The story above still goes down as probably the most ‘romantic gesture’ I’ve received and we’ve been together almost 11 years. HOWEVER, I’ve had every broken household item fixed, lawn mowed, honey-do-list complete, firewood chopped in the middle of the night so I could make smores… Plus, he let me pick out a puppy last V-day 😉
Everyone has a different love language and it is so important to know that people don’t always speak the same one.
2. Don’t give your own meaning to your partner’s actions.
I’m pretty sure I was so upset all those years ago because I was thinking that “Craig didn’t get me anything that day because he wasn’t thinking of me, or because he didn’t care as much as I did…or because of some other disappointing reason.
My brain should have stopped at Craig didn’t get me anything that day. Ok, so what? What does that mean? I’m not sure, but it doesn’t help for me to go making up my own reasons.
3. Men are not mind readers!
And neither are women. Although sometimes we make some pretty good guesses. Don’t expect your partner to know what you want or what you’re thinking. Yes, you should pay attention to the person you love, get to know them, and learn their likes and dislikes.
But, if you want your partner to know something, TELL THEM. I’ve learned that everything turns out much better when I just tell Craig what I want/expect… because then he usually ends up doing whatever I wanted/needed 9 out of 10 times. #happywifehappylife
Valentine’s Day Outfits
Alright, so now that I’m through telling you all my life stories and giving you advice you didn’t ask for, I can get to what you really came here for…the clothes! Click on any of the thumbnails below the pictures to shop the Valentine’s Day outfits. Then, be sure to tag me on Instagram if you purchase anything, so I can see how it looks on you! 🙂
What was your favorite Valentine’s Day outfit? Let me know in the comments below and don’t forget to include your favorite lesson you’ve learned about love. Happy almost Valentine’s Day babes!
By Victoria Marie
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